Sun – Lilith Square – The Heart of an Egoist

The native is torn between the desire to be themselves, freely expressing their thoughts, feelings, and needs, and the need to be good for others — not in the sense of helping them, but for the sake of receiving complete and unconditional admiration. This gives rise to social fears: if the person is themselves and follows their deep instincts, they will be rejected, not accepted, and will lose their status and social recognition.

The Sun – Lilith square gives powerful temptations and swings from one extreme to another. The native decides to cast aside fears and violate social norms, then feels ashamed, puts on the mask of an exemplary successful person again, and then once more breaks into true desires that shock many people. Strong egoism prevents them from finding the golden mean.

Dangers of the Sun – Lilith Square

The light of the Sun opposes the darkness of the Black Moon. On the event level, this manifests in the following way: as soon as the native begins to express solar qualities — willpower, self-confidence, and the brightness of individuality — treacherous Lilith enters the scene. The person’s actions are perceived in a distorted way, secret enemies interfere, and inner fears get in the way. The native may confuse themselves so much, or wind themselves up so intensely, that they make the wrong choice or abandon an active position at the very last moment, especially if the Sun is weak while Lilith, on the contrary, is strong.

People with this square are true egoists, but this heightened self-love and burning tension force them to act, move forward, and literally run barefoot over burning coals, just to reach the goal and declare themselves in defiance of all enemies.

Interestingly, obstacles and competitors sometimes exist only in the native’s imagination. It seems to them that others are interfering, envying them, and putting spokes in their wheels, because Lilith needs to anger the Sun, drain as much energy from it as possible, and weave its shadows. In reality, people may treat the native no worse than anyone else. The distortion of reality happens because of a wounded ego, and sometimes the native wounds it more deeply than any envious person could, especially if the Sun or Lilith is in Virgo, or when the Sixth – Twelfth or First – Seventh House axis is involved.

The person’s willful aggression will be very noticeable if the main luminary of the horoscope is in Aries or Leo. They will angrily expose the vices of society and fight for justice in the form in which they perceive it, while passionately hating their own tempting thoughts and transgressions. However, such a person cannot avoid mistakes, because they are too impulsive: first they act, then they think.

Women of this type have a certain demonic quality. They are desperate, ambitious, and do not recognize obstacles or limitations. It is important for them to prove that they can do things that men cannot. The main temptation for a native of any gender is power. For its sake, they are ready to break the law.

The Sun – Lilith Square in Relationships

The solar nature is originally positive, while Lilith is the darkness of the unknown, which the person very much wants to bring into the light and understand: why it sits in the mind and presses the buttons of pleasure and pain. The combination of all this creates, on the one hand, determination in following one’s desires and instincts, and on the other hand, the danger of getting stuck on a low energetic level, where the main interests are sex and power.

Men with the Sun – Lilith square hide many forbidden fantasies. In relationships, they need a woman who will share them and partly provoke, tempt, and push them away, so that they can conquer her again and again. When everything is good, even, and calm, they become bored and begin looking for something to latch onto in order to start a quarrel.

Sometimes it happens that such a man condemns sexual and extravagant Lilith-type women, but falls in love precisely with them; or, if the Sun is weak, he fears them and therefore curses them. It is important for him to feel his power specifically over a freedom-loving representative of the fair sex, to feel that he controls the situation.

Women with the Sun – Lilith square also need fire, drive, and emotional swings in relationships. They tend toward codependency, in which they choose the role of aggressor, although in essence they are running from the state of victimhood they experienced in childhood. Very often there are complicated relationships with the father here, rejection of his way of life, and rejection of him both outwardly and inwardly. Later, the woman with the Sun – Lilith square sees her father in every man she dates and begins to compete with him, trying to prove that she is better than he is, while in essence she is merely trying to obtain the admiration she did not receive from her father.

How to Work Through the Sun – Lilith Square

The dark passions of the subconscious connected with the energy of the chart’s main luminary are worked through throughout life. The person needs to tame their rebellious egoism and aggression toward people who do not want to submit to the desires of the native’s Lilith.

Recognizing free will for everyone allows the tension of the aspect to move into a constructive channel: the struggle for justice and equality.

A square always contains enormous power for creating something new. Ideally, a native at a high level of development has high standards and ideals. They are an innovator and revolutionary who understands the structure of the criminal world and is not afraid to stir up a hornet’s nest for the sake of saving others. At the same time, it is very important for the person themselves to obey the law and not consider themselves above others.

The native with the Sun – Lilith square often believes that rules are written for weaklings, but not for them, and this is the main mistake. By following the call of the heart while respecting laws and other people’s free will, the person becomes invincible.

The goal is to gain recognition, fame, and success in society without violating the norms of decency. Only excessive harshness, aggression, and severity toward both oneself and others can interfere with this. A talisman or jewelry with sunstone will help soften the person’s behavioral tactics.  ✓