Saturn – Lilith Square – In Search of the True Self

Both participants in this aspect are connected with karma, which means the war between them creates a serious inner struggle in the native’s soul and unpleasant events connected with self-realization, self-definition, and a system of rules for surviving in a harsh world. This is exactly how the person with the square of Saturn, the symbol of restrictions and karmic lessons, and the Black Moon, which distorts the principles of the planet of order and discipline, sees it.

The native perceives Saturnian principles inadequately and cannot find the golden mean between moderation and asceticism. They fall into extremes, break agreements, remove responsibility from themselves, or, on the contrary, become a guardian of order, a stern inquisitor who condemns the slightest mistakes.

Dangers of the Saturn – Lilith Square

Such people need stability very much. But the Black Moon creates the illusion of falling down a rabbit hole, literally knocking the ground out from under the person’s feet. The person cannot cope with the burden of responsibility and begins to ignore requests, obligations, and even their own plans: they postpone everything until the last moment, then rush around in a severe emergency mode and realize they are not keeping up. This can lead to disappointment in their abilities, loss of trust from loved ones, colleagues, and management, and the feeling that time lives its own life and cannot be caught up with.

The second version is a wild fear of not coping and not being on time, because of which the native begins in advance to restrict themselves in any pleasures and rest in order to finish all tasks and projects by the deadline. The result is emotional burnout and extreme exhaustion.

Men and women with the Saturn – Lilith square often take on a mass of responsibilities in order to earn approval and admiration. They like hearing that they are doing the impossible, but after taking on a heap of tasks, they may find themselves literally buried under them.

Characteristic traits of the native with this aspect:

• problems with boundaries, the desire to stand out from the crowd at any cost, emphasize their individuality, and rise above others if fire signs are involved; or, on the contrary, dissolution in the collective unconscious, fear of separation, and the feeling that without the common “body” they are nobody if water signs, Aquarius, or the Eleventh House are involved;
• inability to cope with other people’s orders, expectations, or assignments because of an inability to plan, lead, or obey;
• unrealistic pride and vanity, which are suppressed as improper feelings and contribute to psychosomatic reactions: during public speaking the voice breaks, the hands tremble, the person blushes, becomes embarrassed, and because of this cannot work normally;
• a constant feeling of shame about the themes of the House where Lilith is placed, even if the native has no direct relation to them;
• the habit of limiting themselves through their own ideas about the final result, so sometimes it is easier to do nothing in order to avoid disappointment.

The worst part is that the person with this aspect is afraid to admit the existence of these problems, and even more afraid to seek help from a psychologist.

The Saturn – Lilith Square and Relationships

Any tense Saturnian aspects create problems in relationships, although the planet itself is social and is directly related to the person’s manifestation in society through diligence, responsibility, and honesty.

However, Lilith distorts these principles through deep insecurity and doubt in one’s right to success. Sometimes the feeling of exaggerated insignificance is replaced by a defensive reaction: am I a trembling creature, or do I have the right? Roughly this kind of struggle took place in Raskolnikov’s soul when he went to kill the old pawnbroker, and this is the work of the Black Moon. It instills painful experiences and thoughts in the native: why do others succeed easily and without problems, while they must work by the sweat of their brow and count every penny?

Sometimes such envy becomes a powerful engine of inner growth. The person wants to succeed so strongly and fears being overtaken so much that they do not even notice how they break through to the finish line in record time.

If spiritual development leaves much to be desired, the native with this aspect only sighs enviously while watching other people’s success on social media, while remaining within a very narrow comfort zone.

If Saturn or Lilith affects the First, Fifth, or Seventh House, the native restricts communication with the opposite sex themselves and feels ashamed of pleasure from communication, sex, or a fortunate turn of events. All of this seems sinful and wrong.

How to Work Through the Saturn – Lilith Square

Only conscious people can harmonize this kind of tension, because first of all it is necessary to acknowledge the existence of the problem, and then make the dark unconscious work for them. For example, envy can become an engine for success, while inappropriate shyness can become a reason to go into fear and conquer it: perform on stage, undergo therapy with a psychologist, or even post a beautiful photo session on social media. This is already working through the aspect.

Sometimes it seems to the native that no one can understand them and that expressing their feelings is impossible. Keeping a diary and releasing feelings through creativity will help here, even if it is done anonymously. The person may keep a blog or YouTube channel under a pseudonym in order to gain basic self-confidence.

A person with the Lilith – Saturn square often becomes a hostage of the traditions of their country. What they want somehow turns out to be strange to others. Here it is very important to listen to the inner voice and look for the golden mean in self-expression.

The talisman stone for harmonizing this aspect is black onyx.  ✓