Moon – Lilith Conjunction – It’s All About the Mother

A conjunction is one of the strongest aspects, creating something new from the merging of planetary energies. However, Lilith is a hypothetical point: like a vampire, it attaches itself to the second participant in the union and drains it, simultaneously changing the nature of its energy. In this way, a certain transformation of the Moon takes place, along with a distortion of its principles.

The native has an unstable, changeable psyche. Unworked childhood fears and complicated relationships with the mother contribute to this. Men with this aspect transfer emotional wounds into relationships with their wives, becoming either tyrants or henpecked husbands, while women find it difficult to open up in the role of wife and mother because complexes and fears get in the way. This aspect absolutely needs to be harmonized, because it does not allow the person to live in peace and self-acceptance.

Features of the Moon – Lilith Conjunction

The Black Moon is connected specifically with suppressed fears and hidden childhood wounds. The person may not even remember or know about them, but still acts according to Lilith’s script, which literally squeezes negative emotions and experiences out of them in the themes of the House and sign of the conjunction.

If the Black Moon is exalted, vanity and the desire to influence the public come to the forefront: to manage people’s emotions and become an object of popular love. This, however, comes rather easily, considering the native’s artistry and charisma with such a conjunction.

People’s feelings are easiest to influence through their beliefs and their need for entertainment. For this reason, chart holders often become not only psychologists and coaches, but also creators of totalitarian sects, enjoying their art of manipulating others through emotional influence.

If Lilith is in fall, especially when the Moon is also weak, the native themselves is easily influenced and controlled. Moreover, they may have a masochistic need to submit to:

• a “dark” teacher, religious figures, gurus of destructive sects, and questionable organizations;
• fraudsters, criminals, and aggressive personalities;
• toxic partners, whether a husband or wife, colleagues, or superiors.

When the sign of the conjunction strengthens Lilith and weakens the Moon, or the other way around, the person first enters esotericism as a student, full of admiration and reverence for a teacher, but after mastering the craft, becomes a guru themselves. The same applies to other fields, such as show business, psychology, culinary arts, and teaching.

The native’s mother also tends to manipulate her child, projecting her own fears onto them. A daughter of such a woman, passionately wishing to break free, later unconsciously copies this pattern of behavior, while a son chooses a wife who resembles her.

Positive Manifestations of the Lilith – Moon Conjunction

Since Lilith is the apogee of the lunar orbit, it is most strongly connected with this planet, and the conjunction is felt quite intensely. Such a person does not always understand whether an emotional outburst in public is appropriate, but they perceive the whole world as a theater.

Of course, such excesses in behavior and lack of restraint in emotional expression may irritate others, but the person almost always ends up at the center of everyone’s attention, which brings popularity, though not always a positive one.

At a higher level of consciousness, however, the native begins to understand how to manage not only their own emotions, but also other people through them. This makes them an incredibly charismatic and attractive singer, performer of any genre, psychologist, salesperson, or schoolteacher. They understand people’s needs: their desire for care, involvement, enjoyment of beauty and art, and the satisfaction of both material needs, such as buying something useful, and emotional needs, such as calming down, relaxing, feeling delight, joy, or sadness.

At a high level of spiritual development, the Lilith – Moon conjunction allows the native to read other people’s emotions and help them gain self-control. For this reason, the person is naturally an excellent psychologist, astrologer, or tarot reader, capable of reading information from subtle planes.

In addition, such people have incredible intuition. Even in relationships with abusers, they manage to foresee bursts of negativity and prevent the blows.

Harmonizing the Moon – Lilith Conjunction

Working through this aspect should begin with the relationship with the mother, as the first contact with the surrounding world. Sometimes it is important to study the programming period: nine months before, during, and after pregnancy, when maternal attitudes were laid into the child’s consciousness. This is necessary if the native has an unclear fear of relationships, marriage, motherhood, or fatherhood; repeatedly falls in love with unsuitable toxic personalities; or generally feels distrust toward the world around them.

In this case, there is no inner support, either because it was broken or because it was absent from the beginning due to the mother’s dependence or overprotection. As a result, the person will either crave the worship of the crowd in any form, becoming intoxicated by a sense of their own importance, or, like a remora fish, will find a partner who resembles the mother and will habitually submit to that person because they do not know another way.

Working through the weak sides of the Lilith – Moon conjunction happens through therapy with a psychologist, performing on stage in any genre, singing, drawing, and teaching whatever the person does best, even if it is only a hobby. ✓