Venus – Lilith Opposition – In Love by Choice

Holders of tense aspects sometimes achieve much more in life than owners of trines, because inner tension and an intense need to obtain what is desired push them toward immediate action, especially if Lilith, the Black Moon, is involved in the aspect.

Lilith vampirizes the other planet and does not allow the person to think about anything except its themes. Considering that Venus is not only the thirst for love, but also various pleasures, material desires, and core values without which the native simply cannot live, it becomes clear that such a person will do anything to fulfill their ideas of happiness. At the same time, this aspect grants refined artistic taste, an original approach to creativity, and incredible sexual magnetism, which the native themselves may suppress.

Dangers of the Venus – Lilith Opposition

Since the Black Moon distorts the basic principles of the other planet, at a low level of development the native is characterized by laziness, idleness, and a kind of boredom that they try to dispel through various pleasures, for example, lying on the sofa and eating sweets in front of the television.

Inner tension demands active action. Only in this way can the energies of Lilith and Venus be brought into the positive. If the person indulges in sensual pleasures, spends weekends consuming fatty, sugary food, or fills inner emptiness with endless shopping, degradation begins.

At the same time, the native often settles quite comfortably in life. They find work where they can earn a lot and do little, and then drown inner contradictions in secret pleasures. Very often they like what society condemns, so outwardly they pretend to be an adherent of healthy eating and a faithful family person, while secretly eating fast food and having affairs on the side.

This duality also occurs because it is difficult for the holder of the Venus – Lilith opposition to fit harmoniously into any society. They have no sense of measure and no understanding of how to build relationships within a group. They constantly go too far: becoming closer than others would like, telling everything about themselves, or, conversely, trying to seem ideal and obliging. Such people have their own concept of aesthetics and may dress extravagantly and tastelessly, wearing bright clothes with rhinestones if Venus is in fire signs, or hide behind a faceless black standard when the planet of love is in earth signs.

At the same time, the person has an inadequately inflated self-esteem. They consider themselves an ideal, and if someone criticizes their style or manner of dress, this gives rise to a whole range of very painful experiences and inner dialogues. However, the very people who cause pain are teachers who open access to deep personal power.

Positive Sides of the Venus – Lilith Opposition

The person has come into this world to learn how to love and be loved. This begins with the right attitude toward themselves, something the native’s ancestors were deprived of. This is the ancestral program of “non-love,” when the highest feeling is replaced by passion for a partner, things, or money, while the native unconsciously longs for love.

From this unsatisfied need, at the highest level of development, men and women with the Venus – Lilith opposition are capable of creating beautiful works of art, playing emotionally shattering roles, creating a unique style in design, and becoming partners who will follow their beloved to the ends of the earth.

The Venus – Lilith Opposition and Relationships

Holders of this aspect are incredibly sexually attractive to the opposite sex, although men are luckier in love than women. It is easier for them to change many partners, indulge in certain forbidden pleasures, and even be lazy, because much is forgiven a charismatic and sensual man. There are always many who wish to become his companion, unless he suppresses his true nature because of religiosity or certain inner complexes caused by the influence of other hard aspects.

A woman with the Venus – Lilith opposition seeks love from childhood. From the very beginning, she depends on men’s opinions of her because of a deeply hidden need to love through pain and prove her superiority over other women. This energy embedded in the aspect makes her an enemy to other women.

She is seen as an upstart, a homewrecker, and a rival, which leads to envy and betrayal from female friends and colleagues. Unconsciously, they perceive her as a hunter of men, and if the woman with the Venus – Lilith opposition is beautiful and men themselves fall into her nets, open female hatred is not excluded.

The problem for men and women with this opposition is that they need some kind of dramatic relationship as in a film. Calm family life does not satisfy them, so if there is no emotional intensity or fairy-tale romance, they begin to cheat.

How to Work Through the Lilith – Venus Opposition

It is important for the native to understand that they will never be like everyone else. They need to accept their wild sensual nature, learn to love their unique bright style, and not hide from the world, but offer themselves to it. Through love for their own personality, with all its flaws and imperfections, comes an understanding of how to behave with others, set boundaries, and establish priorities.

Creativity is the key to healing. It is useful to dance, practice theatrical art, draw, sew, embroider, and create interior designs both as a hobby and as a main profession. To avoid being deceived by fraudsters, the person needs to learn how to invest their finances wisely and plan expenses. Excess tension energy is well released through wild fun and dancing in a nightclub, where the image of Venus merged with Lilith can be expressed fully and the person can become anyone they want.

However, love triangles should be avoided, and no one should be taken away from a family, because this worsens the karma of the Black Moon.

The best talisman for the native will be a black diamond or raspberry-colored spinel.  ✓