Venus – Mars Opposition – Between an Angel and a Demon

An opposition occurs between planets located in opposite signs. They direct negatively and positively charged energy toward each other, which gives rise to eruptions of inner conflict in the native’s soul. The person is torn between an angel and a demon, showing themselves sometimes from their best side and sometimes from their negative side. To solve this problem, it is necessary to find a point of support and harmony, reconciling the opposing sides.

The Venus – Mars opposition brings serious problems to both men and women: difficulties with mutual understanding in love and sex, the desire to humiliate the partner and subject them to one’s will, as well as a struggle over control of the family budget. But this does not mean that nothing can be corrected.

The Influence of the Venus – Mars Opposition on Character

A person with this aspect has a difficult inner dynamic: they may be thrown from surges of tenderness and sentimentality into aggressiveness and ruthlessness, as if they suddenly feel awkward about having shown warm emotions and urgently need to prove that they are an icy warrior. This makes it difficult to build relationships not only in personal life, but also with friends, colleagues, and, most importantly, children.

On the other hand, a person with the Venus – Mars opposition is extremely honest with others. If the native dislikes someone, they will not hide their aversion, but they will also express sympathy openly. However, if their feelings do not receive a positive response, they may take offense and seek revenge, or else break off the relationship. Touchiness, haste, and hot temper are three destructive emotions that need to be corrected. In addition to these, the aspect is expressed through the following characteristic traits:

• a lack of taste in clothing and tact in communication;
• a desire to look similar to the opposite sex, especially noticeable in women;
• suspiciousness, exaggerated sensitivity, and irritability over trivial matters;
• an inability to observe subordination and the dress code at work;
• a poor understanding of child psychology: the native may swing from permissiveness and indulgence to severe punishment and even physical aggression;
• energetic recharging through fights, scandals, and quarrels;
• a fondness for watching low-quality talk shows and action films with bloody scenes.

This opposition is characterized by frequent and uncontrolled shifts in the psychological emphasis of the planets, creating discomfort and aggressiveness. This happens on both the subtle and physical planes at the same time. The native is both victim and executioner. The intensity of negatively charged emotions provokes destructive circumstances: attacks, conflicts, confrontations, and mutual insults over trivial matters. At the same time, on a subconscious level, the person may crave impact and painful experiences because of dissatisfaction with their own nature and an inability to express it correctly.

Features of Love Relationships

Despite a great need for unconditional love, a person with the Venus – Mars opposition burns with passion for rude and arrogant people. The native unconsciously avoids warm and trusting relationships. Understanding and kind-hearted partners seem boring to them. Even after agreeing to a relationship with a kind and sensitive person, the native may begin provoking quarrels, being unfaithful, and undermining the stable foundation of the union. Deep feelings and attachment are often triggered by aggressive and sexual partners, possibly connected with criminal circles.

The roots of the Venus – Mars opposition often go back to the native’s parents’ difficult relationship. They may have lived in constant hostility, or in childhood the person with this aspect may have experienced conflicts and misunderstanding with the parent of the opposite sex. In adulthood, this is expressed through:

• excessive sensuality and unusual sexual experiments involving a desire to dominate;
• deliberate humiliation and insult of the partner;
• emotional vampirism, capriciousness, and wastefulness;
• the desire to control all money single-handedly while controlling family members.

The Venus – Mars opposition pushes the person toward questionable erotic adventures, but it should be remembered that these experiences may have a fateful character. Sometimes it is precisely the serious consequences that prompt the native to begin working through this difficult aspect in depth.

Working Through the Venus – Mars Opposition Through Actions and Stones

The first and most important step in softening the planetary conflict is developing willpower and emotional control. The native should recognize that anger and the desire to humiliate and subjugate the partner come from the fear of losing love. The person needs to learn to value and accept themselves in order to free themselves from anger toward people who are not quick to admire their uniqueness.

The Venus – Mars opposition is also worked through creativity: dance, theater, handicrafts, jewelry making, and embroidery. Heavy physical labor relieves the aggressiveness of Mars. In modern conditions, cardio workouts at fitness clubs and work in the garden or at a country house are suitable.

People with this aspect may prefer to drown love disappointments in alcohol, which should be avoided, since it worsens karma and sets off a chain of destructive and frightening events.

The Venus – Mars opposition can be harmonized with the help of jewelry made from natural stones. The cause of the planetary conflict is a distorted perception of love, so contact with minerals that generate the energy of a bright and pure feeling is needed. The native may be helped by corals, carnelian, rose quartz, rhodonite, malachite, and jasper set in red gold. If situations of humiliation by the partner constantly arise, then to form new relationships and become aware of their own value, the native is advised to acquire diamonds or zircons in white gold, and also to wear turquoise in silver often.  ✓